For most couples getting married is one of the biggest decisions they will make in their lives. It is something that deserves and needs a lot of thought, a lot of discussion and when it comes to the wedding day, a lot of planning.
Each year thousands of couples get married in Ireland. The majority of these marriages begin with some form of official ceremony with Church ceremonies being the most popular. Despite recession and difficult financial times, couples continue to commit themselves to each other and the majority of them choose Sacramental marriage as their preference.
In 2007 ACCORD Catholic Marriage Care Service engaged the services of Amarach Consulting to undertake a research project entitled ‘Married Life the First Seven Years’. A total of 712 couples were interviewed which represented 100 couples married from each year from year one to seven years.
Though all couples experience difficulties and conflicts at different points in their marriage, the evidence from the report suggests that strong and effective problem solving and coping mechanisms are in place to deal with these issues as they arise.
To summarise the key findings from the study:
- The vast majority of modern married couples understand marriage to be a lifelong commitment.
- Marriage is a sufficiently rewarding experience such that 9 out of 10 would recommend it to others.
- The traditional family arrangement of children being raised by both their natural parents is the one preferred by almost all married couples in the survey.
- Co-habitation is an increasingly common occurrence before marriage for couples, and is seen as a stage leading to marriage rather than as an alternative to marriage.
- The incidence of severe marital difficulties in the first 7 years of marriage is relatively rare amongst those couples surveyed.
ACCORD has been involved in preparing couples for marriage and in offering a counselling service for those experiencing difficulties in their marriage for over fifty years. We have a total of 55 locations throughout the island of Ireland (see map for details).
For those of you visiting our website who are planning to get married we offer you our sincere best wishes for the future. We hope that our website will assist you in your planning and that you will visit the site again in the future to avail of information and material which you may find interesting and valuable in support of your marriage.
Impressed with the hosts and how they gave real life examples helped understand how to work at marriage - Jackie Fermanagh
The course was very well delivered and helped to enhance areas of our relationship that we found difficult i.e. conflict management and expectations from families of origin. It helped to reach an understanding or how we would like to parent. R K Carlow
Handbook is very interactive and provides very useful information - M B Cork
Very thorough and the presenters related it back to personal experiences which made things easier to relate to - Laura Dublin
Over all not what I expected so would highly recommend everything. Sinead & Michael Wexford
Overall the content was good. No topic is delved into in great detail but all topics are touched on and therefore spark the conversation and allow for further personal discussion after the course. Fiona Wicklow
I didnt think it was going to be any good to us but when we discussed issues we found it really helped us as a couple to understand the others point of view and to talk and importantly listen to one another. Patricia Mayo
The facilitators were very approachable and easy to listen to with very relevant information much more than we expected. We would highly recommended this course to other couples. Christy Mayo
Very well run course, relaxed and down to earth not at all boring really enjoyed it. Jack Dundalk
Fun, practical learning, understanding more about your partner despite thinking you know it all Ciara Meath
The course gave us the opportunity to just be together talking about us, our relationship, our future life together. It was relaxed and enjoyable. I came out of the course with my confidence in our future marriage strengthened and fell in love with my partner even more and I didn't think that was possible. The whole experience filled me with excitement for our wedding. Paula, Galway
The course highlights the huge commitment that we are making to each other and allows us to explore married life in an exciting yet realistic way. Laura, Wexford
I thought the course was really well thought out, practically and skilfully delivered and really raised some very important issues which need to be discussed before marriage. Ciaran, Dublin
Just that I want to thank accord for reminding me that a wedding is a day a marriage is a life time. and thank you for reminding me that God is here to guide me (with all the preparation I had forgotten that most important detail). Grace, Co Down
It was lovely to meet other couples. We both were glad we attended the course as it gave us a chance to sit & talk about us in our relationship. Carol, Donegal
We had heard mixed reviews from our friends who had previously completed their pre marriage courses so we did not know what to expect, but were blown away with how good it was. It made us think about things that we had never thought of before! Claire and John, Co Clare